Category Archives: Seniors

CUDDLE, love, touch, acceptance and connection

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We all want love, acceptance and connection with other people. We’re social beings, and this connection with others is part of our emotional, physical and spiritual DNA.

Touch plays an important role in building these connections, increasing scientific evidence clearly shows a connection that lack of touch can lead to depression, anxiety and a myriad of heath issues, and an inability to connect with others. We will be exploring the healing power of Non Sexual, Consensual Touch in detail in upcoming posts.

Most of us don’t get enough touch in our lives.

We’re touch-deprived, and most of us don’t even know it consciously. All we know is that there’s loneliness and stress and a deep sense of missing out. We feel this because there’s a biochemical yearning for something that is missing in our lives. And there is something missing: touch and the connection with others that it fosters.

“That’s why we started Cuddlist,”  says  Adam Lippin, Co-founder and  CEO  of  CUDDLIST. Safe, non-sexual, consensual touch fills a need that’s badly neglected in our society. Cuddling relaxes us and reduces stress at the very least, and on the deeper level it nourishes our soul and helps us get in touch with our higher self. Much like yoga and meditation, non-sexual touch is healing and transformative.”

Cuddlist brings together those who need touch (and that would be just about all of us!) with Certified, professional cuddlers who are experienced, safe, well-versed in cuddling techniques and follow a code of conduct that set the conditions for a great session.

While any two people can cuddle, of course, what sets Cuddlist apart is that we are  creating the marketplace for transformative cuddling, and we bring the professionalism and best practices that make it work; Cuddlist training is overseen by my co-founder, Madelon Guinazzo, and she both has years of experience as a full-time Cuddlist and knowledge of what works in practice.


While Cuddlist is something special, and fills an important gap in our world, I also want to share what it means to me personally.

I’ve been a yoga and meditation practitioner for more than 20 years. Yoga has been an animating principle in my life that has seen me through college, drug addiction, the corporate world in New York, loss and death, and the birth of my son and my relationship with my amazing  spouse. I’m also a touchy-feely “hugger,” and when I go to shake someone’s hand I’m keenly aware how restricted touch is in our society.

Most would agree that touch is therapeutic, and the rush of oxytocin we produce when we cuddle is great, but in my experience cuddling also can be something deeper.

American Buddhist Jack Kornfield, in his book, After the Ecstasy, the Laundry: How the Heart Grows Wise on the Spiritual Path, talks about how the simple act of being present can be a deeply spiritual practice. I think cuddling, if non-sexual and approached without expected outcomes in mind, can help us be present and raise our spiritual awareness.

So while I’m a “hugger,” and I immediately see the value that cuddling can play as a corrective in our society, I also think it contains a deeply spiritual component.

Indian civil rights leader Mohandas Gandhi said we must be the change we want to see in the world, and I want to play my part by encouraging non-sexual touch and the emergence of what might be called cuddle yoga.

“Touch is important, and we don’t get enough of it. I want to change that, and that’s why I, along with my Co-Founder, started Cuddlist.  Will you join us?”

Find out more at CUDDLIST. Learn more;   FIND  a  CUDDLIST  and/or  become a CUDDLIST!


Pat Robertson Says the STUPIDEST Things

 When is this man going to just lay  down and DIE? (is that too harsh?)   He says the stupidest shit! And I don’t even normally bother to give this old  bitter tired queen the time of day – but this, was like, WTF?

The 700 Clubs  Pat Robertson claimed that gay people in
San Francisco wear special rings in order to cut people so they can
then intentionally infect them with AIDS when they shake hands.

Thankfully, CBN edited Robertson’s claim out of the broadcast which it aired online, Right Wing Watch reports.

Robertson’s claim came in a response to a viewer question from “a
woman who wondered if it was wrong for the church not to inform her that
a man she was driving to worship services is ‘dying of AIDS,.'”

 Robertson rambled:

“There are laws now, I think the
homosexual community has put these draconian laws on the books that
prohibit people from discussing this particular affliction, you can tell
somebody you had a heart attack, you can tell them they’ve got high
blood pressure, but you can’t tell anybody you’ve got AIDS…

…You know what they do in San
Francisco, some in the gay community there they want to get people so if
they got the stuff they’ll have a ring, you shake hands, and the ring’s
got a little thing where you cut your finger. Really. It’s that kind of
vicious stuff, which would be the equivalent of murder.”

Video here

Growing Old….Before You Know It

You never think about getting older, when you are younger. I think I was about 40 and it really started to hit me. My parents were senior citizens – and I was catching up!

So whenever I see an older gay person alone, out at an event or a bar, I always walk mover and say HI. Because that WILL BE me one day.
Now I am 50 – and I am fit and still look pretty good, but yet some young guys ignore me.  No one wants to be ignored – or invisible. 
The subjects of BEFORE YOU KNOW IT are no ordinary senior citizens. They
are go-go booted bar-hoppers, love struck activists, troublemaking
baton twirlers, late night Internet cruisers, seasoned renegades and
bold adventurers. They are also among the estimated 2.4 million lesbian,
gay and bisexual Americans over the age of 55 in the United States,
many of whom face heightened levels of discrimination, neglect and
exclusion. But BEFORE is not a film about cold statistics and gloomy
realities, it’s a film about generational trailblazers who have
surmounted prejudice and defied expectation to form communities of
strength, renewal and camaraderie – whether these communities be affable
senior living facilities, lively activist enclaves or wacky queer bars
brimming with glittered trinkets and colorful drag queens.

Before You know It  site
Before You know It  trailer